Sexual incompatibility is something you can either sense immediately when you meet someone or something that happens over time in a relationship/marriage after being with your partner for a while. The incompatibility can range from minor annoyances your partner exudes, the changes in every day life as a married life, preference changes as an individual… and it could also simply spell the death or end of a romantic relationship.
Keeping in mind that a problem ignored will persist, it is necessary to watch out for the signs that your sexual relationship is dying and that you may be forced to do something about it. The intensity of romantic relationships fades at some point due to familiarity or other issues which will arise in the course of any a romantic relationship and those which cannot be avoided.
Here are signs that your sexual compatibility is dwindling:
1. You’ve stopped thinking about your partner in an intimate way
Marriage takes a lot of work to function properly for both parties involved. Apart from juggling a whole lot of other things in life, we might lose sight of some of the things that are right in front of us. And unfortunately one of the things that can happen is that we could stop seeing our partner as desirable and the relationship may turn to be a platonic one where you don’t see your partner as someone you can be intimate with but someone you just have to share a living space/children with. So even kissing, touching or being in an intimate physical space becomes a rumor.
2. Your partner views sex as unimportant
Having disparity in sex drive could bring about problems. This and also dismissing your partner’s sexual needs as not important. This is a huge problem because who wants their needs not met in any situation in life leave alone a romantic relationship.
3. Your partner’s Sexual preferences are distasteful to you
If one partner is into hour-long romps between the sheets and the other one is more than ok with the average 7 minutes, one person may dread sex with their partner and sexy time can begin to be viewed as more traumatizing and disturbing to one partner.
4. You find your partner’s body to be a turnoff
It is true that sometimes people let themselves go in relationships because of getting too comfortable with each other. The problem may arise when you let yourself go too much such that your partner cannot even stand to look at you or is embarrassed to even be with you or feel some type of way whenever it’s time to get intimate.
5. You both feel awkward watching sex scenes on tv
Watching an intimate scene with your partner should feel natural but it is common to find that when a couple has difficulties connecting in the bedroom, they will likely feel uncomfortable watching other people getting intimate. If you find yourself feeling awkward when a sex scene comes on and it’s just you and your partner in the room, there could be a problem right there.
6. Your sex life is non-existent and you are ok with that
Life happens, children happen, things happen, illness happens and sometimes day-to day life and having to tackle things that need to be tackled may see your sex lives taking the back seat , especially for women who may have too much on their plates.
7. You make excuses to stay up late after your partner goes to bed
If you find yourself avoiding your partner and having intimate time with them and even coming up with excuses to avoid going to bed at the same time so that you don’t have to encounter each other sexually, there could be a big problem to be looked into.
8. You find yourself fantasizing about past sexual partners where the sexual chemistry was wild!
We often think that some things will change with time when we give them time. Take for instance, your partner’s sexual techniques. We think that with time and guidance they will catch your drift. But what happens when your partner just doesn’t get it, or get you and wouldn’t be bothered to do so or learn despite your efforts to share what would make you happy? We might find ourselves fantasizing about the former partner who understood us and might even begin to dread getting intimate with the partner who is stuck in their rigid ways.
9. Your partner is selfish about their sexual needs and does not pay attention to your needs
It is true that there are some selfish lovers out there who only care about their needs being met and wouldn’t care less about yours. I’m talking about partners who don’t flirt with you to get you in the mood, or make time for foreplay or care to please you in other sensual ways…they are all about getting themselves off and that’s the end of that story.
10. Everything about your partner annoys you
Getting the ick in a relationship is a thing.You don’t even have to have been together for long. One day you are all smitten by your partner and the next you can’t stand how they blink, breathe, chew, cough or even how they exist. Would you want to get intimate with a person whose mere existence makes your skin crawl?
